ONLINE EMDR THERAPY IN CALIFORNIA
You've done the work. So why does your body still feel like it's bracing?
Online therapy for women across California carrying attachment trauma. Two ways to work with me: sustained weekly rhythm, or multi-day EMDR intensives. Both are the depth work.
Insight isn't integration. The body knows the difference.
You can name every pattern. The patterns still won't let you go.
You can name your attachment style. You know what your mother did and didn't do. You've sat across from more than one therapist and made real progress, the kind that other people can see.
And still. The chest tightness when your phone buzzes. The replay of conversations at 2 a.m. The exhaustion that doesn't lift on weekends. The quiet shame that you, of all people, can't seem to make this stop.
If you've started to wonder whether you're the problem, you're not. You're a woman whose nervous system learned, a long time ago, that the only safe option was to hold everything together. That worked. Until it stopped.
This is the gap ordinary therapy often can't close: the distance between what you understand and what your body still feels. My practice is built for that gap.
TWO WAYS TO WORK WITH ME
Weekly therapy or an EMDR intensive. Both are the depth work. Different rhythms.
Some women arrive knowing they want the concentrated depth of an intensive. Others want the sustained rhythm of weekly work with a specialist. Both are legitimate paths. The right one is the one that matches your life right now.
ONGOING RHYTHYM
Weekly Therapy
Ongoing weekly sessions with a specialist in attachment trauma. For women who want the work to unfold over time, or whose life doesn't currently allow for the calendar commitment of an intensive.
$250 per 60-minute session. Sliding scale available.
CONCENTRATED DEPTH
EMDR Intensives
Multi-day trauma processing built for concentrated depth. For women whose life allows for a bounded time commitment, and whose nervous system needs sustained processing rather than weekly increments.
$3,750 for a 15-hour intensive. $6,750 for a 30-hour intensive.
Not sure which one fits? The free consultation is where we figure it out together.
HOW INTENSIVE WORK IS STRUCTURED
The three-phase arc of an EMDR intensive
If you're considering an intensive, here's the arc. Weekly work has its own rhythm, which we discuss on the free consultation.
An EMDR intensive is structured, multi-day trauma processing using Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy. Instead of one 50-minute session per week, you do the work in concentrated multi-hour blocks across a few consecutive days. Every intensive moves through three deliberate phases.
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PHASE ONE
Preparation
Targeted assessment, history-taking, and nervous system grounding before any processing begins. We map the patterns and prepare your body for the work.
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PHASE TWO
Deep processing
Sustained EMDR work over multi-hour sessions. Enough time for the body to actually move through what it's been holding.
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PHASE THREE
Integration
Structured follow-through after the intensive so what shifted stays shifted. The work is built to hold, not just to feel different for a week.
THIS WORK IS FOR YOU IF
The women I work with usually recognize themselves here
You've done years of therapy. You're glad you did. But you're not where you thought you'd be by now.
You're the strong one in your family, your friendships, your career. You don't know how to stop being that person, even when no one is asking you to.
Your childhood "wasn't that bad," and yet something about how you were loved or not loved left you with a body that doesn't know how to rest.
You can regulate other people's emotions with your eyes closed and have no idea what you actually feel.
You've started to suspect that the part of you that's so capable is also the part that's keeping you stuck.
If any of that lands, you're in the right place.
WHERE THE WORK MEETS YOUR SPECIFIC PATTERNS
What I help women work through
Attachment trauma doesn't show up the same way in every woman. These are the specific patterns I see most often, and the doors most clients walk through, whether they arrive for weekly therapy or an intensive.
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Anxiety that won't quiet down
The persistent low-grade alarm that doesn't match what's happening in your actual life. The chest tightness, the racing thoughts, the inability to land in your own body.
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The cost of being the strong one
Hyper-independence, over-functioning, the inability to ask for help or to rest. The exhaustion of being the person everyone counts on, including yourself.
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When you're still stuck after years of therapy
You understand your patterns. You can map your childhood onto your reactions in real time. And the patterns still won't move.
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Childhood that looked fine from the outside
Emotional neglect, attachment wounds in families that didn't look broken. The trauma that's hard to name because it didn't look like the obvious kind.
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People-pleasing and the lost self
The dissolution of your own preferences, needs, and feelings underneath layers of accommodating other people. The slow disappearance of you.
Most clients work with more than one of these over time.
THE WORK
Online EMDR therapy intensives for women who can do anything except rest
You don't need more insight. You have insight. You need your nervous system to catch up to what you already know.
Whether we do this through weekly rhythm or through a bounded intensive, the clinical lens is the same: attachment-focused, EMDR-informed, calibrated for the specific shape of what hyper-independent women carry.
I work entirely online across California, using a HIPAA-compliant platform designed for virtual EMDR work. You don't have to live near an office. You don't have to fit your healing into a template that isn't built for what you're actually carrying.
MEET YOUR THERAPIST
Hi, I'm Olivia
I'm Olivia Lavelle, LCSW. I'm an EMDR-Certified therapist specializing in online intensives for women healing attachment trauma and complex relational patterns.
I work with women who are tired of being misunderstood by therapists who weren't trained for the depth of what they're carrying. Women who've been told they're "too sensitive," "too much," or "doing fine," when none of that matches what's happening inside them.
You don't have to explain why you shut down, stay busy, or struggle to soften. I already understand the function.
COMMON QUESTIONS
What women ask before booking EMDR therapy
How do I know if weekly therapy or an intensive is right for me?
The free 20-minute consultation is where we figure this out. Some women arrive knowing they want intensive work. Others arrive wanting weekly. Some aren't sure. All three are valid starting points and we'll talk through what fits your life right now.
Is online therapy as effective as in-person?
Yes. Research on virtual therapy, including EMDR, shows outcomes comparable to in-person work when delivered by a trained clinician. For many women, doing this work from their own space supports the nervous system rather than competing with it.
How do I know if I have attachment trauma?
Attachment trauma doesn't always look like the obvious kind. It can show up as chronic hyper-independence, difficulty resting, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the inability to feel safe in close relationships even when nothing is wrong.
Do I have to live in California?
You have to be physically located in California during our sessions. I'm licensed in California, which means I can work with anyone present in the state, even if you live elsewhere most of the time.
THE NEXT SMALL STEP
A twenty-minute call. We map your next step together.
If you've been carrying this for a long time, a twenty-minute conversation isn't a big ask. Most women tell me after that they wish they'd done it sooner.